The Collective Unconscious, Quantum Tunneling, and Waking Up from Patriarchy

Lately, I’ve been reflecting on Carl Jung’s idea of the collective unconscious—the concept that, beneath our individual minds, we’re all swimming in the same vast psychic ocean. Every trauma, every joy, every secret—echoing quietly in that shared space.

When it comes to domestic abuse, that collective field is heavy. Not just with the acts themselves, but with the energy that surrounds them.

Think about quantum tunneling—the phenomenon where particles cross barriers they shouldn't be able to cross because of the energy they carry. What if energy focus works the same way in human systems? What if enough collective focus can push through the 'barriers' of denial?

The Abuser's Network is Loud

In most domestic abuse cases, only one person knows the full truth: the victim. Sometimes, a child sees. Maybe a close friend suspects. But the abuser’s network—their parents, coworkers, friends, even acquaintances—often floods the field with disbelief:

"I can’t believe it. Not him. He’s such a good guy."

That disbelief carries weight—energy. In quantum terms, it drowns out the victim’s signal. Collectively. The social field bends toward the louder frequency—the abuser’s mask—because that’s what most people see.

Patriarchy is Built on That Same Field

Zoom out. That same pattern exists on a global scale. This is how patriarchy sustains itself—not through individual acts of violence, but through the collective weight of disbelief every time a victim speaks.

We wake up—globally—when the collective field shifts. When people stop saying, “That could never be my friend / son / boss / partner.”
And start understanding:
“It could be. Statistically, it is someone’s.”

It’s Not About Paranoia—It’s About Statistics

This isn’t a call for paranoia or suspicion. It’s about facing reality.

Most people only know others through the “customer service voice”—the social mask worn in public.
The truth? You don’t know anyone’s home life unless you live there.
And even then—you might not see it all.

🇦🇺 Domestic and Family Violence Homicide Stats — Australia

🔸 Women

• In 2022–23, there were 247 homicide victims in Australia; 75 were women.

• Of those female victims, 49% (34 women) were killed by a current or former intimate partner.
  📈 Intimate partner homicide of women increased by 28% from 2021–22 to 2022–23.

• Over a 10-year period (2002–2012), 488 women were killed by their intimate partners—nearly one woman every week.

🔸 Men

• According to the One in Three Campaign, one male dies every 8 days as a result of domestic violence in Australia.

• In 2023, there were 409 homicide victims recorded by police; 65% (266 victims) were male.
  (Note: Not all of these are DV-related, but male DV deaths are significantly under-reported.)

🔸 General / Family Violence Context

• In 2023, 38% (157 victims) of all homicide and related offences were family and domestic violence-related.

• Children are often secondary victims but are not always counted in adult statistics.

The numbers don’t lie. Someone you know is living this. Right now.

The Shift

What changes the field? Ownership. Not suspicion. Not fear. Ownership of the truth:

"It could be happening near me. I will hold space to listen when it surfaces."

When enough people stop flooding the field with “I can’t believe it” energy, the victims’ truth starts tunneling through.

And that… is when patriarchy cracks.
Not because victims got louder—
but because the world finally listened.